Richardson High School Speaker Baffled by "Dateable Girls Know How to Shut Up" Uproar

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Justin Lookadoo can't figure out what all the fuss is about. He showed up at Richardson High School yesterday to give the same motivational speech he's given to students thousands of times only to have his name desecrated on Twitter and be pilloried by the media.

His presentation, he told NBC 5 last night, his bleached Guy Fieri haircut now simply brown, made no reference to religion or the "R. U. Dateable" tips he peddles on his website.

The message was simply "empowering the student to actually take control of their relationships," he told the station.

See also: Richardson High Schoolers Learned Today That "Dateable Girls Know How to Shut Up"

Still, Lookadoo found himself in full damage-control mode after students discovered his advice online ("Dateable girls know how to shut up," "Men of God are wild, not domesticated") and started the hilarious #lookadouche hashtag. So, he went on the offensive:

Lookadoo has deleted the corresponding Facebook post (it's posted in full below), but a glance at WFAA's comment section shows that the message got across. Let's review some of the pro-Lookadoo comments that popped up shortly after he issued his plea:

Logan Holfelder: The dude is great at what he does and he speaks the truth. If kids my age and your listened to those rules rather the society we wouldn't be near as lost when it comes to love.
Beau Rolfe Great advice! Men and women are different for a reason. THAT IS HOW GOD MADE US!! There isn't anything wrong with our differences. Please look at the list carefully. News 8 did their best to highlight the most provocative sound bite and quote it out of context, knowing many would not read the entire list. While some if the words in the list could have been chosen better, overall the list is great advice.
Kelly Norwood If only we could see 50 years into the future and see how all the 'non-dateable' people vs 'dateable' people fare. Dateable - let me see if I can remove all the offensive language that is meant to wake up stupid teenagers: girls = genuinely feminine, content, honest, modest, not vindictive, liberated from past mistakes (that's really one only God can do), a generous conversationalist, confident, attentive, supportive.
Katherine Diaz The comments I read here from uneducated and unwise individuals is astounding. Justin Lookadoo has the most upmost [sic] respect and adoration for women. If folks actually read his book in its entirety that would be evident to the reader. I recommend his books for every teenager and adult for that matter, male and female. Most kids do vomit too much information and it is unattractive regardless of sex. I am offended that y'all are offended because you lack the correct information. It's reminding me of the Tom Cruise comment that was just taken completely out of context to sell online ad space.

We live in a world where the God given roles of men and women have been totally distorted. No matter how much society, the media, and the world want to ignore the wonderfully different traits our creator has bestowed upon the sexes, they will always exist.

Kathy Turner My daughter heard Justin speak at church recently. She is a very beautiful and strong minded, intimidating personality and is known for this. It keeps some boys from understanding her and from her understanding herself. These dating rules actually HELP the young girl that is always getting the message to be strong, independent and fierce to know that it's OK to not have to be everything to everyone. IT IS OK to let a boy have his place to lead within the date. It does not mean he is her leader. It means she RESPECTS him in his natural role and she is to be RESPECTED in her role, too. In our home my husband is definitely the HEAD of our home. But make no mistake. I, as any good woman is, am the NECK.... Think about it.... What is the role of the Neck.... When young people choose to date, there is a role for each of them. That's all Justin is saying. It works better this way. It always has. This is not religion or 1950 -- This is just natural.

Here's the full text of Lookadoo's plea to his Facebook followers:

Want to make a difference? Go to wfaachannel8 fb page. Leave a comment. They set it up like i was preaching at a school and the complaints are based on relationship stuff on a website that i dont talk about in schools. They want to know if it is appropriate for students to hear about teen relationships. For those who have seen me speak you know what I say.

*whatever relationship you have in middle/high school will not last

*what you put in it now determines pain when it ends

-ditch your friends you'll be lonely

-drop out of life over relationship you'll feel lousy

* girl drama- girls will destroy each other. Protect yourself.

* girls never compromise who you are just to get a date.

*guys stand up and be a man.

Stand up for kids who are getting made fun of.

*girls if a guy ever calls you a name or pushes/slaps you get out of relationship.
That pretty much covers it. All the things I want my little girl and two boys to know.

Go to their Facebook and post or there is a poll. They said text the letter "A" (without quotes to 48411. That means you like teens to have empowering messages.
Lets be the positive voice for our kids.

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Daniel
Daniel

This story has now gone national.

scott19674
scott19674

Jesus, he looks like a Muppet who took a ride through a dryer.

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

I'm wondering, how could this guy have been taken for an expert on male-female relations at any age, on any level? Are parents so terrified of talking to their kids about this stuff that they turn the job over to spikyhair wackdoodles? 

Montemalone
Montemalone topcommenter

Ya know, if I was in charge of selecting entertainment for a high school, I don't think this guy would have made the "maybe if everybody else is dead" pile.

MelodyH1
MelodyH1

who is this guy and why does he matter?


tdkisok
tdkisok

I was wondering what Fred Armisen was doing these days.....

h3lloK1tty
h3lloK1tty

never  trust something that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die.

NotReallyThanks
NotReallyThanks

Dallas is a third world trailer park that is so backward not even Oklahoma wants it. No wonder every scheisty MLM or snake oil salesman with a big watch and designer jeans flocks here. 

John1073
John1073

Teenagers wised up and made up their own minds? It sucks doesn't it?  #lookadouche for the win

emmparks
emmparks

I took the test and am rated 'dateable'.  However, I'm also married with 2 young kids so...

Actually, some (not all!) of his ideas are good, but the message gets lost in the horrible bullet points. Just this morning I listened to this TED talk, which hits on some of the same ideas, but in a much better way and for a slightly older audience:  http://www.ted.com/talks/meg_jay_why_30_is_not_the_new_20.html


J_A_
J_A_

The problem I have with him is the whole "natural hierarchy of men vs. women", and I'm Christian. Basically that men are meant to rule and women should be obedient. Having to watch a presentation at school by a man that holds these views is wrong.

kylebrooks1
kylebrooks1

This guy is by far the dumbest looking mother fucker I've ever seen

kylebrooks1
kylebrooks1

This guy is by far the dumbest looking mother fucker I've ever seen in my life

jamessavik
jamessavik

He's right. If you ever heard the mouth on some of these girls, you would understand.

Just ask a cop. He sees these little darling feminists at their best when he's writing them up for a DUI.


ruddski
ruddski

This goofball can't be getting laid.

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

"My daughter heard Justin speak at church recently." 
"
We live in a world where the God given roles of men and women have been totally distorted."

That's the problem with this. Nothing more. nothing less. 

Easiest fix: take Public schools outta this business and "no sex" business all together. 

Having to police this stuff when you're a full-time working parent is exhausting.

TheCredibleHulk
TheCredibleHulk topcommenter

@bmarvel 

This being Texas, I'm pretty sure that as long as Abstinence Only is the bottom line in his doctrine, those parents don't much care what other sort of BS goes with it as a side-dish.  

mcdallas
mcdallas

@bvckvs So true.  You have such a stronghold on the truth, don't you?  And thanks for taking a swipe at millions of people based on the idiocy of one.  That proves you really do have a lock on the "real world".

ckc2288
ckc2288

@emmparks It's 14.5 minutes of how in order to not "waste" your 20's you should seek wealth, get married and have children, and make connections (previously referred to as "friendships") that can serve you when you need them. It has nothing to do with developing as a person, but rather is an infomercial on how to "get some identity capital" so that you can add "value" to who you are as an "investment." 

Perhaps her core message of "don't procrastinate" has merit - but it's focused on such a narrow and classical definition of success and couched in such corporate terms that it misses the point. She's right - don't waste your 20's - but that doesn't mean that exploration not in service of wealth or ambition isn't valuable.

thinkbeforeyouspeak
thinkbeforeyouspeak

@JaniceA He never said anything of that such. You all are extremely misinformed about the situation and base you arguments off misquotes and paraphrases. If you want to make an educated statement, try and get some actual back-story before you blabber your math all over internet forums.

doublecheese
doublecheese

@kylebrooks1 I don't care what this guy has to say.  I can't take someone who looks like that seriously.

doublecheese
doublecheese

 @mcdallas You can always count on bvckvs to come around and post about those "Evangelicals", whatever he thinks that means.  He really doesn't know what that even means. It seems to be something of a weird obsession for him.  I'm sure there's a secular shrink he can talk to about it.

J_A_
J_A_

Check out his website if you don't believe me. There are links in the article.

leftocenter
leftocenter

@kylebrooks1 @doublecheese

Factor in that he's 6'7" lol.  I'd say he's an attention getter.  at least.

omgfloofy
omgfloofy

@veruszetec @oakclifftownie I don't know. If the Doctor were a youth pastor, we might have much better youth running around. :o

And more educated. ;)

magistralatina
magistralatina

@thinkbeforeyouspeak

So you think it's unfair and not at all funny/ironic/etc. that a middle aged man, who dresses like a socially challenged twelve year old and lectures teenaged girls to avoid revealing dress/speech/etc. because they'll be judged on that, is whinging that he's being judged on what he reveals publicly about himself?

Oh-kaaaaaay . . . 

robkuelbs
robkuelbs

@thinkbeforeyouspeak @JaniceA You're a fucking genius.  So, if a guy wants to speak at your kid's school, who has a website full of child pornography, you'll allow it?

I'm sure it was NEVER mentioned before, during, or after the presentation that the guy's written a book, or has a website that the kids could visit.

Wait.......this whole thing's in the news why?  Oh, because the kids visited the website, genius.  So......they weren't subjected to his views?

bishopblack
bishopblack

@thinkbeforeyouspeak @JaniceA Right, people's opinions on their own websites are totally off limits. Like you know, those guys in NAMBLA. Cut them slack if they talk about fucking kids on their OWN WEBSITES.

J_A_
J_A_

Wow. Unbelievable.

J_A_
J_A_

If you would've read my comment, I never said he talked about these rules at the presentation. I'm simply stating my opinion, and apparently this really seems to bother you.

cynthiapea
cynthiapea

@thinkbeforeyouspeak @JaniceA he didn't talk about the rules, but he said things like and I quote "he said that girls are far nastier than boys. That girls (and women) tend to tear down successful members of their own gender far more than boys (or men)"

I don't know if you have kids, or if you have a daughter, but if this is acceptable to you than you should hire him to speak to your kids, he has no business in a public school speaking to mine....


thinkbeforeyouspeak
thinkbeforeyouspeak

@JaniceA THE PRESENTATION WAS NOT ABOUT THE RULES. He had a good message that was lost because of some terminology he used. He never mentioned the rules or visiting his website. There is no need to continually heckle a guy about his beliefs POSTED ON HIS OWN WEBSITE.

J_A_
J_A_

In case you're lazy here are some of his rules. I'm not making anything up like you are insinuating.For girls9. Let him lead10. Need himFor guys2. Believe in yourself6. Men of God are wild, not domesticated

J_A_
J_A_

In case you're lazy here are some of his rules. I'm not making anything up like you are insinuating.

For girls

9. Let him lead

10. Need him

For guys

2. Believe in yourself

6. Men of God are wild, not domesticated

dsmithy3211
dsmithy3211

@leftocenter As someone pointed out in the other thread,  he looks like Fred Armisen dressing up as Guy Fieri.  Now that I know he's 6'7'', it's more like Will Ferrell dressed up as Fred Armisen dressed up as Guy Fieri.

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