Richardson High Schoolers Learned Today That "Dateable Girls Know How to Shut Up"

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The Rule Makers, via their website.

Around 1 p.m. today, the hashtag #lookadouche showed up on the Twittersphere. A group of students at Richardson High School were skipping regularly scheduled math or science classes to attend an optional PTA-sponsored assembly.

The day's guest speaker was a motivational speaker who has co-authored faith-based dating books, Dateable: are you? are they? and The Dateable Rules. His name: Justin Lookadoo.

The students first learned of Lookadoo on Tuesday, when teachers informed them that today's classes would be canceled or shortened because of a special assembly. Upon hearing the news, Dr. Jaime Clark-Soles, mother of a RHS student and a professor at Southern Methodist University, visited Lookadoo's website. She, along with several other parents, took their concerns to the principal and other school officials, as well as to their social media networks.

"I am extremely troubled by the fact that Richardson High School would bring in an 'expert' speaker who holds the dangerous, misogynistic views that advance a rape culture such as those expressed on his website," Clark-Soles said. "I was given no information about an unnamed speaker on an unnamed subject."

At first the assembly was to be postponed, then students were told it would take place but be optional. It went on as scheduled.

On his website, which was made public to the students, Lookadoo touts materials that include a list of "Dateable girls rules." On that list are rules including, "Be Mysterious. Dateable girls know how to shut up" and "Let him lead. God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls get that and let him do guy things. ... Which means they don't ask him out!!!"

As for the "Dateable Boy," Lookadoo and co-author Hayley DiMarco want young people to know: "Being a guy is good. ...They are stronger, more dangerous and more adventurous and that's okay." Also: "Men of God are wild, not domesticated. ...They fight battles, conquer lands and stand up for the oppressed." You can read all of the "cool rules" here.

Sarah Roeschley, the associate director of senior high youth at King of Glory Lutheran Church in Dallas, says her high school group reaches many of the RHS students. She calls Lookadoo's ideas "antiquated and sexist, gender-stereotyped B.S."

"I'm mortified that this went on, and I apologize to the students of Richardson High School on behalf of Christians everywhere," Roeschley says. "Lookadoo is wrong."

While the assembly itself was not to contain any faith-based doctrine or direct references to the "rules," students obviously found the rules, and reports on Twitter say the talk came across as "a rant against women." Several students are reported to have walked out of the assembly early.

A very Dateable Spokeswoman at RISD didn't return calls for comment.

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roadsidecouch
roadsidecouch

""I am extremely troubled by the fact that Richardson High School would bring in an 'expert' speaker who holds the dangerous, misogynistic views that advance a rape culture such as those expressed on his website," Clark-Soles said. "I was given no information about an unnamed speaker on an unnamed subject.""


You mean Mrs Soles.  Her husband is probably a P whipped metro-sexual with no balls.  That is assuming she is married to a male.   Apparently in her libtard world, a Masculine man is a rapist. 

DesignDiva
DesignDiva

The parent or school official who invited this hideous jackass should be tarred and feathered--since they seem to like doing things the old-fashioned way.

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

Dick (Henry the Sixth, Part II) was wrong. First, we kill the motivational speakers....

Q8DHIMMI
Q8DHIMMI

Don't worry, if he wasn't speaking in Urdu, Hindi or Punjabi or with thick South Asian accented English-  most of the kids in that assembly couldn't understand him anyway.  Most were probably sitting there cramming away for their Advanced Placement courses & just not listening.  Most aren't allowed to date by their parents until they've finished their post-doctoral fellowships and can meet the fiancee their parents signed the marriage contracts for when they were three.

msjkg
msjkg

No school should EVER be able to invite a "faith-based" (ANY faith) speaker to a school-sponsored event. That's wrong on SO many levels!

Willie
Willie

The douche bag looks like an orangutan.

Raketemensch
Raketemensch

How does one simultaneously "conquer lands" and "stand up for the oppressed?"

b.e.smithfsp
b.e.smithfsp

The silver lining here is the fact that a good number of students were able to see through this joker's flawed teaching and some even had the courage to protest publicly. Maybe society isn't doomed after all.

sarahjake
sarahjake

This is awful. I'm so sad a high school would allow a "man" to come in and tell young women that it's men who are leaders, not them - and they should shut up and "gab" later. 

saw0025
saw0025

I just sent emails to the superintendents of the school districts he is scheduled to speak at in the future. It was just a letter of concern with a link to the above article. I encourage anybody that has the time to do the same. I pulled the districts off of Lookadoo's calender.  http://lookadoo.com/Calendar.aspx

hotdogthatshit
hotdogthatshit

as an alum of this prestigious nexus of education, my friend and I would have been escorted out double quick if they brought this douche around while we were there.  

RHS leadership needs to reexamine its priorities.  How bout getting someone to come talk about Science, Engineering or communication?  You know, the magnet programs the school has.

AminaMohammed
AminaMohammed

This went way too far in my opnion as a Richardson High School Student.  I beleive that somethings he said were contradicting. and i felt offended in a sense that the things he said were way opposite on the website.  everyone has a different opnion. I agreed with some of the things he said not all.. but his website is absolutly ridiculous..

lecterman
lecterman

He looks like Fred Armisen dressed up as Guy Fieri for Halloween...amirite?

d-may
d-may

"A very Dateable Spokeswoman at RISD didn't return calls for comment."

Awesome! I just LOL'ed in my office.

dana.dallas
dana.dallas

Question for the PTA:  Exactly who vetted this guy to speak at the assembly?  Whomever that person is doesn't need to be booking speakers anywhere.
 

Cabe
Cabe

Um they got thier website hacked overnight it seems. as of a few minutes ago when I clicked on it, it took me to.... well.... Sex 'Expletive' Teen dot com

I'm sure they'll get it all sorted out. But hopefully not soon enough for everyone to see it. Need I say not safe for work or younger eyes or conservative Christians or really even me.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

The GOOD NEWS here is that the only way this Evangelical Republican could infiltrate the school was by sneaking in under a false title.


darrylrs
darrylrs

My son was there. He said most students booed.

isaiahlange
isaiahlange

However his delivery of the message was offensive some of his points were good and were looked over by his demeanor. This assembly really got the school talking and debating which was good. People came in with a predisposition on him and his message but it was completely off. I do not agree compleltly with him but he didn't come off as sexist for a portion of it was to empower women

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

Our RISD JH PTA paid for the Aim For Success program also full of misinformation. It was held during SCIENCE class! Unfortunately a lot of parents are ok with this. They think it will do no harm. All of these guised religious based programs need to be in ones house of worship and NOT opt out. Those with dissenting opinions already feel Ostracized. Kids don't need another reason to feel that way. Sadly I'm glad this happened so that parents will finally pay attention to what's going on in their schools. You'd be shocked.

sarahrox
sarahrox

I as an Richardson high school student was not affended by this in any way shape or form. Students took it out of hand and took it to the next level. I honestly think the girls that were offended were the girls that sleep around and their parents don't even know about it. HALF OF THE STUFF HE SAID WAS TRUE.

Someguy
Someguy

@Willie No self-respecting orangutan would make their coif look like a sea urchin.

msalewski
msalewski

@Raketemensch Example: Go into a foreign country, bomb the shit out of them, then tell everyone you're helping them fix their government!

Admonkey
Admonkey

@saw0025 Interesting that he's scrubbed the appearance in Richardson from his calendar.

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

@bvckvs Exactly! Titles such as "Aim for Success" sound pretty innocuous until you actually see them in action. SCARY.
To me, the good news is that hopefully parents will pay attention to stuff like this now. 
READ everything and do your due diligence as parents. Attend PTA meetings, etc.
Yes. In this particular situation there probably wasn't enough time to do so as has been stated here and elsewhere.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@darrylrs 

That won't matter much to the preacher.  He wasn't there to motivate them - he was there to hear himself talk.


Daniel
Daniel

@isaiahlange Empower them to do what? Conform to conventional gender roles?

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@isaiahlange 

Being a whore doesn't empower women.  It just gives the really stupid ones an easy income.

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

By that logic The PTA should then also fund the KKK. Why not?! It would encourage debate.

Nuts.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@OnlyLogical 

The GOOD NEWS is that they have to sneak themselves in.  As preachers, pastors and ministers, they're not welcome.  To get in, they have to pretend to be something else - like a specialist in motivational psychology or a lunchroom attendant.


alteredjustice
alteredjustice

@OnlyLogical Yup, they did that when I was in JH as well (in 99-00). It's a horrible program. It's inaccurate and doesn't make any sense.

fracquestions
fracquestions

@sarahrox If "half the stuff he said was true", then that means he was lying through his ass on the other half!

AminaMohammed
AminaMohammed

@sarahrox you my friend should go look at his website ... then you wouldnt agree with some of the things he said.

aftstarboard
aftstarboard

@sarahrox PS My boyfriend wanted to let you know your grammar and spelling really are atrocious. He asked me to tell you please stay in school, you represent all Americans on the internet.

aftstarboard
aftstarboard

@sarahrox Oh and I forgot to mention, the reason I didn't care about what other people did or believed while in high school is because I was working too hard being an All American athlete (look up ruth graham track and field 2003 if you are interested, I was a sub 5 minute miler), a AP student, and a musician. Apply yourself to your own life why don't you? If you don't you'll regret it later.

aftstarboard
aftstarboard

@sarahrox You are a real example of fine character aren't you? Instead of slandering others why don't you shut up like a lady should if you claim to follow the advice of such people. Someone should not have let you speak on your own. You need a handler to censor your words, because they are full of spite. You are the one with a dirty mind if you can't stop thinking about what other people are doing IN PRIVATE. Other people having sex never bothered me, and I was a virgin way past high school. Repressed much? Guess what? Now I masturbate and I LOVE IT. My boyfriend and I also have a great relationship and I ASKED HIM OUT. I remember girls like you in high school. (I'm almost 30 now) Guess what? The head of the christian club in my high school later hit and ran 3 children...killing 2 of them and leaving them to die on the street. People like you are not better than anyone, rather... worse because of their open sexism, racism and bigotry. Go pray for the heathens if you really want to help them, otherwise keep your disgusting snobbery to yourself.

JohnSmallBerries
JohnSmallBerries

@sarahrox So do you believe "Dateable girls know how to shut up?" Do believe "God made guys as leaders. Dateable girls ... they don't ask him out!!"

By the way, if half the stuff he said was true then half was false. Being a current student I am sure you know what you would think if you got a grade of 50 on an assignment.

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

That is your OPINION. Spewing religious-based misinformation during PUBLIC school class time is in no way okay. Period.

isaiahlange
isaiahlange

Not at any time did he speak of gender roles in the assembly I attended.

isaiahlange
isaiahlange

It's doesn't. But speaking against domestic violence and helping to raise ones self value does empower women.

bronco_5
bronco_5

@bvckvs @isaiahlange Easy income?!?!?  Who the hell are you?  In my humble opinion a woman should be able to do with her body whatever the hell she wants...men too.  To legislate something like prostitution is absurd in my opinion.  If you don't know that men (straight ones, and the gay one's don't bother me, so don't go there) do everything for vagina then you're fooling yourself.  The only things that should be illegal is f*cking someone over for no reason and/or stepping on one's pursuit of happiness.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@OnlyLogical 

A few years ago in Dallas, the PTA *did* do fundraisers for the KKK.  Texas was one of the few states in the union where the KKK could find such a friendly atmosphere.

thinkbeforeyouspeak
thinkbeforeyouspeak

@OnlyLogical that made absolutely no sense at all and is not even comparable to the situation at hand. Kinda of contradicts your username, huh?

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@JohnSmallBerries @sarahrox 

It's worth pointing out that he was only speaking from CHRISTIAN culture.  Normal people choose their friends in order to foster mutually beneficial relationships.

But Christians have to choose their relationships based on politics.  So, to them,  a Jew, a Muslim or an Academic is just not "datable".


cynthiapea
cynthiapea

@thinkbeforeyouspeak @OnlyLogical well you said below "Students who did not want to attend the assembly were given the opportunity to sit in the Eagles Nest."

That does not cut it. It's not like the KKK can have a rally at the school and if the kids don't like the message they're free to go to the library. See how "OnlyLogical" was correct by his/her statement above?

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

My point was/is that not vetting speakers before they speak and then saying they're ok or not after the fact is nuts. I'd have to venture that SOME of what lunatic fringe people say is okay. But that's the kicker. Crazy people are actually sane 90% of the time. One could parse KKK comments the same way. Or the Taliban or whatever. Just get these orgs outta the schools period.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@queenallie03 @bvckvs 

You got that wrong.  When I referenced Christian culture, I wasn't speaking of every individual Christian.

Daniel
Daniel

@ColonelAngus @bvckvs @JohnSmallBerries @sarahrox You're no more American than a Hindu, Colonel, whether you like it or not. I know this pisses off neo-Confederate Tea Partiers. Too bad -- they're in the minority (and thus "abnormal"). They can just go handle snakes or boink their cousins or whatever it is neo-Confederate Tea Partiers do when they're not trying to destroy the United States of America.

queenallie03
queenallie03

@bvckvs I have found many of your statements rather ridiculous, but your concept that a Christian would only find other Christians datable is lamentable. It is this withdrawal into cultures and the divisiveness that comes from it that is causing many of the breakdowns in out society. Also, I have never heard of the religion of 'Academia," I suppose they worship facts or textbooks?

queenallie03
queenallie03

@ColonelAngus @dsmithy3211 Wow, I didn't realize that the Constitution only makes laws for the people working in Congress, and has no effect on how things behave in the real world of normal American Life. The Establishment Clause was the answer to the question that was asked, it was not me saying that the Establishment Clause had actually been called into play. I would suggest learning how to read threads properly since you seem to have problem understanding how this conversation went.

ColonelAngus
ColonelAngus

@dsmithy3211 @ColonelAngus Just so we are clear I have never heard of this guy and do not endorse him in any way.  

Your position seems to be that the Establishment Clause has been violated.  At what point exactly did this occur?  Was it when he mentioned God?  If not, then when? 

dsmithy3211
dsmithy3211

@ColonelAngus And I was merely pointing out that you are wrong.  For purposes of the Establishment Clause, RHS = Congress.

As to the rest, go on attacking your straw men.  You're attacking a position that not a single person (whether with a tortured reasoning or otherwise) has ever advocated on this forum.

ColonelAngus
ColonelAngus

@dsmithy3211 @ColonelAngus If you start at the beginning of the thread you will see that RHS = Congress was queen's ridiculous assertion; I merely pointed it out. 

And by your tortured reasoning, no Christians could be invited to speak about any topic, because they would necessarily be speaking from a Christian point of view.

This is all very basic Con Law 101 (nay, Civics 101) stuff.  To claim otherwise is to ignore 150+ years of SCOTUS precedent and is, frankly, patently un-American. 

dsmithy3211
dsmithy3211

@ColonelAngus I'd need more than luck.  I'd need to be a RHS student or parent.

As to the rest of your argument (which has changed from "RHS != Congress"), it's wholly irrelevant.  No one is advocating "absolute freedom from religion" (whatever that may be... abolishing all churches perhaps?).  And your right to freedom of religion is violated well before you are "forced to pray" (again, whatever that means).

This is all very basic Con Law 101 (nay, Civics 101) stuff.  To claim otherwise is to ignore 150+ years of SCOTUS precedent and is, frankly, patently un-American. 

OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

@bvckvs Not anti-Muslim at all! Was referring to Saudi Arabi and the like that say driving causes damages to ovaries. ;-) Also, be careful of what religious-based comments ask for. Nobody wants to be run by a single dogma/power hungry group. 

ColonelAngus
ColonelAngus

@dsmithy3211 @ColonelAngus @queenallie03 Strikes two, three and four.  None of these guarantees an absolute freedom from religion, and no one was forced to pray; pedantic, indeed.  If you are so offended then go ahead and file your lawsuit.  Good luck, you will need it.

dsmithy3211
dsmithy3211

@ColonelAngus @queenallie03 Sweet jebus.  If you're going to be a pedantic ignoramus about it...

The Due Process Clause of the 14th Amendment. Article 1, Section 6 of the Texas Constitution.  Not to mention 150+ years worth of SCOTUS case law.

queenallie03
queenallie03

@NotReallyThanks I can assist. It's called the First Amendment of the US Constitution, it starts with "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion" which is known in the courts as the Establishment Clause. Should you wish for more information wikipedia does provide a fantastic history.

queenallie03
queenallie03

@bvckvs I just thought I would remind you of what a theocracy is, and that a statement acknowledging they exist in the Middle East and not in the United States is not a sign of hate, thus anti-Muslim. The fact that you would take such a statement as such says more about your own opinions as opposed to the OPs.

bvckvs
bvckvs topcommenter

@OnlyLogical Man, you anti-Muslim psychos sure do get a lot of basic stuff wrong.


OnlyLogical
OnlyLogical

Uh actually it's the law of the land. If u don't want a separation between church and state move to the Middle East.

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