Fort Worth Advice Columnist Pisses off Nursing Moms by Saying Breastfeeding in Church Is Icky

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Typically, Molly Forthright's advice column in Fort Worth, Texas Magazine goes completely unnoticed by the Internet. Her insights on proper gym etiquette, obnoxiously over-involved sports parents, and snoring husbands garnered nary a comment or Facebook share.

Then, Forthright went and wrote about breastfeeding, and the Internet exploded.

In the column she penned for the March issue, Forthright responds to a reader who complains of being distracted by a woman in a neighboring pew at church who began nursing her infant midway through the service.

Forthright begins with a simple "Ick" before going on to elaborate.

"I know that many think a woman providing nourishment to her baby is a beautiful and natural thing, but putting on a show in the house of the Lord is unacceptable in my book," she writes. "In fact, I can't think of a place in public where I would want to ever see that. So for those women out there who bare all at the mall food court or in line at the supermarket, consider waiting until you can be a little more discreet."

She then goes on to lump breastfeeding in with clipping fingernails, having a really irritating country music ring tone, and smuggling Big Macs to a Broadway performance of Les Mis.

Cue backlash in 3 ... 2 ... 1 ...

"What do you think Jesus' mother did when she had him?" one commenter wonders. "Did she hide in shame? Most likely not. Pretty sure she went to church and breastfed when he was hungry."

And another: "The discriminatory statement, 'Ick', is appalling and offensive. God did not sexualize breasts, humans did. If God had an issue with breastfeeding then he wouldn't have made breasts a source of nutrition."

And another: "It's appalling that you would compare breastfeeding in a public place of worship to clipping toenails ... [Y]our disdain for the practice is offensive. And really? Your advice is for me to take off my shoes and practice hygiene in response?! Shameful."

And so on. WFAA's ran a story on the controversy on its website last night, which jumped the shark just a little when reporter Jobin Panicker asked the magazine's owner if he plans to apologize and quoted an anonymous minister who thinks breastfeeding doesn't belong in his sanctuary. But the story does include the helpful news that the La Leche League is staging a nurse-in at Fort Worth Magazine's headquarters on Friday.

That should teach them a valuable lesson: writing dismissively about breastfeeding is a helluva way to get pageviews.

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jajojimom
jajojimom

Have we outlawed bottles and nursing pumps now?  Why is it so hard to use a bottle?  your only option is a crying baby, staying home or pulling your shirt up or down?  So it is natural. So is birth and I don't want to see someone do that either!  if you are out, bring a stupid bottle and breast feed when you are in a quiet spot.

Teresap1
Teresap1

Women have breast to feed our children.  We will do it in public.  Get over it.

ozonelarryb
ozonelarryb

Okay guys, next time a woman is breastfeeding in public, volunteer to help by using your mouth to cover more area.

auntiecairo
auntiecairo

There are ways to discretely breastfeed -- and also depends on location and planning.  It's one thing to be out shopping; at church, etc.  But if you are at an expensive restaurant or event then maybe plan ahead -- babies eat on a schedule and don't need to go everywhere.  I find crying babies much more distracting than breastfeeding -- but I also wonder sometimes about people taking babies out when they are so young - I see people out crazy late at night, out in the cold with tiny infants. Guess what - sometimes you just have to stay home if you have a baby!

Americano
Americano

Seriously?  This is what we are worried about now?


dmiller19
dmiller19

When babies are tiny, they eat every 2 hours.  Look away for two seconds while the baby latches on.  Geez. 

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

Anybody who turns to an advice columnist for this sort of thing deserves what they get.

TheCredibleHulk
TheCredibleHulk topcommenter

I heard a woman on the radio yesterday morning that made a great point about this. She contended that it would be far more distracting to her fellow church-goers to cart a fussy, hungry infant out of her pew past her fellow church-goers than to simply quietly lift her top slightly, unlatch her nursing bra and let junior latch on for a little snack. Seems logical to me.

You have to be actively looking for something like this in order to even see it. Which brings us to the question: Shouldn't you be thinking about and reflecting on your own transgressions in church rather than looking for others to persecute?

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin topcommenter

you wanna give the baby the nip, fine, cover it though.  you dont need to be all "look at me and my precious little baby feeding at my wholesome bosom."  

ptmoore2012
ptmoore2012

The solution here is better sermons so that congregants are not distracted. If your eyes are looking forward you won't be bothered by someone breastfeeding because you won't be seeing it. 

Myrna.Minkoff-Katz
Myrna.Minkoff-Katz topcommenter

The pervs will never complain when one of these tacky broads pulls out a tit.

Montemalone
Montemalone topcommenter

@auntiecairo If I bring my own wine to an expensive restaurant, they charge a corkage fee. Um, what's the sommelier supposed to do in this case?

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin topcommenter

@bmarvel Zac Crain is "apparently" writing an advice column over on FrontBurner, guess I cant turn to him anymore

Myrna.Minkoff-Katz
Myrna.Minkoff-Katz topcommenter

@bmarvel William.  Bill.  What think if lil' ol' Myrna Wyrna starts an advice column of her own?

everlastingphelps
everlastingphelps topcommenter

@TheCredibleHulk Exactly.  That's why I piss in a water bottle in church.  Wouldn't want to distract everyone by walking by in the aisle.

danielleriebel
danielleriebel

Ah yes, my favourite response. Why should a mother be able to worship or go grocery shopping or eat at a restaurant with a small baby?! Keep her locked up inside until the child doesn't need to be fed anymore!

dmiller19
dmiller19

@everlastingphelps @dmiller19 So glad we heard from the Taliban.   I am sure it is hard for you, Fred Phelps, (where u protesting this weekend?)  to understand the desire to worship the Lord when one is blessed with an infant. 

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

@ScottsMerkin Zac can be very funny. He does a Jim Schutze takeoff that I'm told is hilarious. I wouldn't take his advice on where to find the restroom, however. 

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

@everlastingphelps Somehow I picture you as the kind of person who would piss on a water bottle in church.

danielleriebel
danielleriebel

You're so right! Pissing is totally the same as FEEDING A HUMAN BEING. Face Palm.

bmarvel
bmarvel topcommenter

@everlastingphelps Just curious, phelps: You a parent? Because if you were, you wouldn't have to ask such a knucklehead question.

everlastingphelps
everlastingphelps topcommenter

Why would you want to expose a tiny infant to all the pathogens of the public?

everlastingphelps
everlastingphelps topcommenter

That's not the argument being made. The argument being made is that it's less distracting to take care of your biological needs in the pews than to walk out to the nursery or the bathroom. I agree. That's why I'm also bringing a bucket of chicken and a bag of Funyuns tomorrow in case I get low blood sugar.

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