Mayor Mike Rawlings Wants 10,000 Men to Rally Against Domestic Abuse, Isn't Entirely Sure What Will Happen After That

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This morning at the Dallas Museum of Art, Mayor Mike Rawlings, along with about 1,000 other men in suits sharing the stage, announced a new campaign dubbed "Men Against Abuse." The next stop on this tour of well-meaning gestures will be a celebrity-packed rally on March 23, which the mayor wants 10,000 Dallas men to attend.

Due to an "overwhelming response," Rawlings said, the rally has been moved from Klyde Warren Park, where it was originally scheduled, to City Hall Plaza. Its featured attendees will include Troy Aikman, Jason Witten, Roger Staubach, celebrity pastor T.D. Jakes, and State Representatives Eric Johnson and Rafael Anchia, among others.

Rawlings began today's press conference by highlighting the number of "violent incidents perpetrated by men against women who they say they love." That includes four domestic violence murders in 2013 alone in Dallas alone, he added, along with several others in surrounding cities.

"For years, domestic violence has been viewed as what -- a women's issue?" Rawlings asked, rhetorically. "Well, it ain't. It's a men's issue. Because men are the ones who are doing this. It's our problem."

This press conference follows several others, most recently one in January where Rawlings announced, among other things, that the Dallas Police Department will now prioritize domestic violence warrants. It was there that the mayor also first promised to begin "a domestic violence public awareness campaign."

"There are a lot of men in this city who don't meet my definition of what a man is," Rawlings said today. "They subscribe to an outdated, caveman-like attitude... To be blunt, there are too many cowards in this city." He added that it was time for men to "stop laughing at jokes we've all participated in," to stop "being friends with abusers," to stop playing golf with them and lastly, "to stop referring to t-shirts as wife-beaters."

In other words: it took a little while, but Dallas's leaders are here. Welcome to basic feminism, gentlemen, in which we hold perpetrators and enablers of abuse -- rather than its victims -- responsible for their actions.

So, now what? After the March 23 rally, what happens next?

That's still not quite clear. In response to several questions from reporters, Rawlings said the next event will be "a softball game this summer," which presumably will be used to raise money for anti-violence causes, or perhaps yet more awareness.

I asked if there were any plans to provide more city funding to local domestic violence shelters, or perhaps to organize some kind of anti-domestic violence education program in DISD schools (DISD trustee board president Lew Blackburn promised today that 1,000 students would attend the rally).

Rawlings, who perhaps did not entirely hear my question, replied that "mental illness and domestic violence are cousins," and that "the City Manager is exploring it." In response to yet another question from someone else about how the city would address violence going forward, he replied, "That's one of the things, we're going to put together a plan. We'll announce some of those things at the rally."

Along with Rawlings, Bishop Kevin Farrell spoke this morning; he heads the Catholic Diocese of Dallas. After him came current Dallas Cowboy Brandon Carr. Both of them called on men to help end violence against women, with Carr adding that he wants Dallas men to know "It's okay to be a gentleman, like back in the day."

"Open up doors, take your coat off if a woman is cold," Carr added, to applause. "Things like that."

Casey Cox also spoke briefly this morning. He's the brother of Karen Cox Smith, the woman who was shot to death in a UT Southwestern parking garage last month by her estranged husband. He said that his sister's death came after 18 years of abuse, and praised her as a "loving, caring, compassionate human being."

"Karen had the courage to finally say, 'Enough is enough,'" Cox said, choking up as he spoke. "And to change her life and her children's life for the better."

Meanwhile, the city of Dallas and the police department still face a federal lawsuit in another domestic violence case, that of Deanna Cook. The lawsuit alleges that she died after 911 call-takers bungled her call, which she made gasping and pleading as her former husband, Delveccio Patrick, strangled her. Dallas police reportedly took over an hour to get to her home, with the lawsuit claiming that they stopped at 7-Eleven on the way. After a cursory look around, the police left; Cook's body was discovered by her family two days later.

What does true justice for women like Karen Cox and Deanna Cook look like? A rally? A softball game? Troy Aikman in front of a bank of T.V. cameras?

Those considerations, apparently, will come later.

"Once we have 10,000 men signed up, that gets us a long way towards changing things," Rawlings promised. "It's a tough struggle we have here."


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halldecker
halldecker

Did you know,  in Dallas County,  a woman is battered every 83 seconds?



But only 8 percent are ever deep-fried?

mavdog
mavdog topcommenter

Anytime a public figure such as the Mayor speaks out against domestic violence it is a good thing. the more it is talked about the better chance we have of ending the cycle some women are caught in, and bringing the issue out into the open is positive.

Abuse is wrong, abuse shouldn't be ignored or tolerated.

Keep talking Mayor, and keep the issue out in front. Many people's lives will be better for it.

paigeflink
paigeflink

A press conference and a rally are a good beginning to what will be a long road to change public opinion about domestic violence and violence in relationships. But, it is a really good first start. If men really hold each other accountable for committing dispicable acts, it can change the outcome for a victim. I appreciated your question about funding for domestic violence shelters because if this program works, it only means more people will need to be helped. It will take all of us to help solve this problem.  I hope the men of Dallas will show their support.

JasonN
JasonN

Folks, this is no laughing matter. These prejudices have gone on long enough and it's time to stand up! 

From this day forward, I swear to never again refer to a t-shirt as a "wife-beater," or watch a re-run of "Home Improvement."

Sure, some people might say the city is using "domestic violence" to whitewash complex crime statistics.

Others might say he's just a puppet reciting lines in service of a broader agenda, such as attaching "offenders" with a GPS device like Florida recently did. 


I call these people cynics.  In fact, the Mayor can go even further with his bold campaign. Instead of "Men Against Abuse," it should be called "People Against Abuse" or "People Against Bad Things." 


Scruffygeist
Scruffygeist

I take it Texas Republicans are against this because those are the exact types of guys they pander to.

ozonelarryb
ozonelarryb

What's all this talk about Domestic Abuse??  are there that any people beating up on maids and butlers??

TheCredibleHulk
TheCredibleHulk topcommenter

Did Rawlings really say, "Well, it ain't..." ?


Because I really enjoy it when our elected officials "keep it real" like that with the common folk.

ThePosterFormerlyKnownasPaul
ThePosterFormerlyKnownasPaul topcommenter

How does that country and western song go ...

"It's hard to kiss those lips at night that have been chewing on my ass all day ..."

dallasdrilling.wordpress.com
dallasdrilling.wordpress.com

Mike's(via Paula Blackmon)PR attempts to appear 'sensitive and caring' to the public are interesting seeing how City Hall's Dirty Mary Suhm(Mike's real boss) has been nailed to the cross in the Observer but certainly not DMN about her lobbying efforts on behalf of the gas industry. Mike's involvement with that episode is still not clear but is bound to come to light very soon.   Domestic abuse is a tough society struggle across the nation that is not solved by PR events by the Mayor and his posse. We get it, Mike cares, if he really cared about the entire populace of Dallas he would do the tough jobs first and not these beauty pageant appearances. I'm predicting that DMN will have this on their front page above the fold tomorrow morning. Surprise.

linsid
linsid

@JasonNGo ahead and be cynical. I assume you are a man, Jason. And I also assume, from reading your comment, that you don't feel a great sympathy or passion for the issue of women's rights (although I do know what it means to assume, so I apologize if I'm wrong). The city taking a stance against domestic violence so it doesn't have to address real crime? Is that what you mean? Domestic violence isn't a "real" enough crime for you? Domestic violence is very real, especially to the victims living in constant fear. And I personally think that Men Against Abuse is the perfect title, because you are the perpetrators. Women learn from a very young age that there are things they need to do to protect themselves from men who may become violent towards them. We learn about internet stalkers, date rape, domestic violence, etc. What do men begin learning at an early age about this issue? Nothing. Men need to take responsibility for this issue. Not all men abuse, but almost all abusers are men.

paigeflink
paigeflink

@bill.holston1 Sadly neither Texas Senator voted yes. We have our work cut out for us in the House of Representatives. Calls really do matter.

Anna_Merlan
Anna_Merlan

@TheCredibleHulk Yeah, he really did. Christina Rosales at the DMN and I have slightly different versions of that quote, but we both agree on the "ain't." 

mavdog
mavdog topcommenter

@bvckvs

gee, apparently you missed this quote:

"For years, domestic violence has been viewed as what -- a women's issue?" Rawlings asked, rhetorically. "Well, it ain't. It's a men's issue. Because men are the ones who are doing this. It's our problem."

your cynicism getting the better of you.

mavdog
mavdog topcommenter

@bvckvs 

can you provide the quote from Rawlings that date rape kits are "not worth the expense"?

are you aware a republican senator has introduced legislation to fund the testing of the 1000's of kits just sitting in police dept.s?

it seems your opposition is based on the message coming from those in the republican party rather than a disagreement with the message. couldn't get any smaller than that....

mavdog
mavdog topcommenter

@bvckvs 

women committing domestic violence on men is a very, very low number. an est. 6x more women than men are victims, so no, it's not "half true".

the "action" is to openly talk about the issue, giving it increased visibility.

how anyone could criticize Rawlings for this action is beyond me. he doesn't need to do anything yet he is taking the initiative to bring the issue into the forefront.

mavdog
mavdog topcommenter

@bvckvs

That Republican bill is a fake -not intended to pass... and it hasn't passed. It was a stunt to make his opponent look bad in a previous campaign.

no, you're wrong, it is a bi-partisan bill that has the democrat senator from minnesota as a co-sponsor.


As far as a quote, there is no such quote, and I never said there was. Had I meant to quote him, I would have used quotation marks.

so when you wrote "He says it's just not worth the expense" with "He" referring to Rawlings, you just made it up? you just pulled it out of your ass? you basically lied? wow.


I could continue picking apart your argument, but you just got SO MANY things wrong, it's really not worth the time.

to "continue" you would first have to begin, which clearly you have failed to do. what you have done is proven yourself to not only be misinformed, you have also shown yourself to be dishonest.

great job, keep up the good work! sheesh.

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