Of This I Am Cocksure, or: Why Anthony Weiner's Weiner Photo is None of Your Business

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The only real obscenity in this whole business about Congressman Anthony Weiner is the idea that his sex life is a public issue. He's not George Alan Rekers, the Baptist minister who made his own sex life an issue by campaigning against gay sex and then taking a male prostitute to London with him on vacation.

That's just different. You make your own sex life public by propagating the idea that it's any of your damn business how other people have sex. Denouncing and dehumanizing other people over sex makes you a legitimate target if you're also a hypocrite, which the denouncers always turn out to be.

There's none of that in Weiner's background. Before this story about his online indiscretions, he was a serious New York lawmaker and politician, best known outside New York for denouncing hate speech on YouTube. He got a little bit of beyond-New York press by withdrawing from a mayoral primary in 2005 even though he had a right to a run-off. For that he got pats on the back for gentlemanly behavior in New York, but it was the sort of thing that's a little hard to figure out from this far away, if only because New York is a little hard to figure.

He lied about the online indiscretions with, among others, the Beaumont-residing sister of former Texas Ranger Ben Broussard. So what? It's about sex. Sex is private. Sex is nobody's business. Of course people lie about sex. They have a right to lie about sex. They should lie about sex, because we don't have any damn right to ask or to know about sex. If we ask, we deserve a lie.

Do you really want the public voting thumbs-up or thumbs-down on your sex life? What a horrible prospect.

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Go on about your business, folks. Nothing to see here.
So we think there's something funny about his sex life? There should be something funny about everybody's sex life. If there's nothing amusing about your sex life, you've got yourself a bad sex life. If your sex life is ready for prime time, you should give up sex. You seriously missed the boat somewhere.

We are ridiculous, vulnerable, grand, heroic, pathetic, noble, venal, silly, lonely and born again in our most private expressions. That's what privacy is for. People who lie to protect their privacy are committing a moral good. People who pry into other people's privacy for no good reason are committing a great evil.

Oh, sure, what about the French guy? First of all, the French guy is not accused of indiscretion. He's accused of rape. C'mon. We all know the difference.

Secondly, we need to go a bit cautiously there, as well. Especially where the accusation is of a crime we all want to be known for opposing, there is a great pressure for public denunciation even before the facts are known. And the facts are never known until the trial, in any story.

I have been a reporter all my life. I have covered a whole lot of trials. It's often a very humbling experience for reporters. There in the clash between adversaries, under rules born of a millennium of common law, we see truths emerge that quite often are directly contrary to the pictures we have been painting all along in the media.

We do not know what the French guy did. We do know what Weiner did. And we should be ashamed of ourselves for knowing it.

We know what perversion is. We know it in our guts. Sexual predation on children or on any person who can't defend him- or herself or who just doesn't get what's going on is perversion. We also know what betrayal is. It's terrible. Betrayal moves beyond the realm of privacy when it threatens the welfare of others, usually children. I think we all get that.

But beyond those things, the only real perversion is people sitting around thinking and talking unhappily about how other people screw. People who think like that need to go see a doctor.


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gametruthordare
gametruthordare

I think the real action is not as bad as the cover. Is not this the case useally? Also, I see Anthony Wiener abuse their reputation of dredging / text / Sixth with young women. Im surprised that there would be a woman who was released earlier.games for couples

Bettyculbreath
Bettyculbreath

I with you Jim this man's mistake was being caught playing his private game.It real is not sex,its playing sex game.Sex is contact between to people.I don't know why people are so upset about this,I laughed when I read it.Who is that in the picture?

jammerbirdi
jammerbirdi

"He lied about the online indiscretions with, among others, the Beaumont-residing sister of former Texas Ranger Ben Broussard. So what? It's about sex. Sex is private. Sex is nobody's business. Of course people lie about sex. They have a right to lie about sex. They should lie about sex, because we don't have any damn right to ask or to know about sex. If we ask, we deserve a lie."I agree with this and applied it generously during the Lewinsky matter. But this is different. This is the cyber-equivalent of the guy in a raincoat in the park. Sex is sex and it should be private. But all sexually motivated behavior is just SEX, as you put it, and therefore (I would agree) private and almost sacredly (for us heathens) so. A US congressman can not send pictures of his naked erection to young women by the half-dozen on the internet. For him to do so under his own name with a world of political enemies on the constant lookout for anything like this from anyone, when it's so easy to open a Twitter account under an anonymous username is preposterously bad judgment, so bad that it calls into question his sanity. No. I'm sorry. This is everyone's business. And I'm a progressive lefty liberal from California. Bottom line. People who even take, let alone send, pictures of their erections are just weirdos. Pathetic. His wife is right hand woman to the Secretary of State of the United States of America. Enough. He needs to go. 

However. One of his constituents said something I thought very interesting. 

"Escobar and his wife, Adriana, also a native of Colombia, said the United States was overly obsessed with politicians' personal lives. "We don't care if he cheats on his wife," she said. "I know that not every guy is like that, but most guys are crazy for women. They lose their minds."

Guys are crazy for women. They lose their minds. 

I think we men should own this statement. Once and for all. Stop running from it. Stop lying to all the wives at cocktail parties. Sisters and moms. Constituents and employees. Guys are crazy for women. They lose their minds. I'm not ashamed of that. I own. We all COULD own it if not for the culture that rewards us men all distancing ourselves from it. We can't be respected functioning member's of society if we don't distance ourselves from it. I think it's time stop all that. 

Mike
Mike

Real people don't have public and private lives. They have complete lives and what you do in private affects your life. Compartmentalizing is a myth proven false again and again. If you are a loser and jerk at your core as this congressman surely is, then you better keep that side under wraps. We give you a lot of leeway. If you are reasonably smart, we will likely never know. Keeping it that way is your job, not our job.

I do not understand what people defending this guy are really defending. This story is not about government intrusion and bias against a belief. It is about learning some disgusting things about someone and making personal judgements about his fitness for large responsibilities. We have that right under the Constitution. It is our job as adults. People defending him have different standards about fitness for being a leader. That is fine. But do not turn your nose up at us for expressing our standards.

c'mon
c'mon

Hmm...it appears that he may have been sexting with a 17 year old...but of course, according to Jim's logic, this is ok as that is part of his "private life". 

Kitty Smith
Kitty Smith

He is a voyeur. In the 30's he would be arrested for throwing his body at people who have never met  and don't know him. He has this uncurbable desire to show himself to women. Not a great idea. They did not buy his pictures or solicit his pictures.

Carter Class of '72
Carter Class of '72

So Jim, after everything that has come out since you wrote this tirade, are you now thinking you should have held your fire and not gone off half-cocked?

trannyntraining
trannyntraining

If anything, this has taught us all to be sure and not only clear our internet history, but scrub the living shit out of it!

trannyntraining
trannyntraining

I wonder if Heaven is this political? Oh wait. I'm white, so nevermind...

Catbird
Catbird

O, I wish I was a liberal named Weiner,That is what I'd truly like to be,For is I was a Liberal named Weiner,Everyone could get a look at me.

Jay
Jay

If nothing else, Rep. Weiner put himself in a position to be coerced or black-mailed over his tweets. By the women, by lobbyists, by other politicians. They might demand money, or just a friendly vote on legislation. By Jim's standards, the Justice Department should just leave John Edwards alone.

And.....Rep. Weiner is a total idiot. After Tiger Woods imploded over his bimbo texting, anyone with half a brain would known not to pursue a nefarious affair over tweeting or texting over  mobile phone or through email.

 

trannyntraining
trannyntraining

Wouldn't it be great if we could vote for politicians who weren't a part of the human race?

Watching South Detroit
Watching South Detroit

Liberal nonsense - if a politician (Weiner) will lie and a find some justification why lying is  the right thing to do, then that politician will lie about anything.  How is anyone supposed to believe what Weiner says next about anything?  This is the same type of left wing nonsense that allows many of the same problems in Dallas to continue. Many of the "leaders" from south Dallas cheat, extort, steal and lie about this and that.  But these same leaders get re-elected and keep doing the same things. No, I don't care about a politician's sex life, that is private.  BUT I DO CARE IF HE LIES TO THE PUBLIC AS BLATANTLY AND AS MANY TIMES AS WEINER DID.  The lies demonstrate a lack of character.  If Mr Schutze believes certain lies are just fine, then he has a low standard for our supposed leaders, and his own character is questionable,.

Guest
Guest

That's just different. You make your own sex life public by propagating the idea that it's any of your damn business how other people have sex. Denouncing and dehumanizing other people over sex makes you a legitimate target if you're also a hypocrite, which the denouncers always turn out to be.

Learn it, live it, love it http://tinyurl.com/3nwbvfr

Jon Shannon
Jon Shannon

Now that Rep Weiner has admitted not only that he sent the photos, but that his campaign to deny responsibility was a public lie, do you still believe it is none of our business?

It never seemed to be about his sex life... but the judgement and honesty of a servant of the people.

Pecos_Drifter
Pecos_Drifter

Bottom feeding Jim, turn that shotgun around and place it in your mouth, pull trigger, repeat as needed

Al
Al

Weiner made it public business when he did a send to all via his Twitter feed.  He then held news conferences and made false accusations about being hacked while being coy about his picture.  I really wish Weiner did not do this but he did. 

Sorry Schutze if you drop drawers in public and repeatedly call attention to your privates they regrettably are no longer private.

Willie
Willie

Hey Jim,

After reading the litany of comments about your Oscar Meyer Weiner-gate story, how about you make up a story--any kind of story, and one, of course, involving a smidgen of stupid human behavior--about a politician--local, county, whatever--and then fold that story and the stupid comments on it into a follow-up story about the insanity, lunacy, and irrelevancy of comments on the story?  The comedy of the comments on your story about the comments on the story would undoubtedly inspire me want to take a cell phone to my Johnson.  Wasn't it Mel Brooks who said " Life literally abounds in comedy if you just look around you."?  Oh, wait, you already have the material for your follow-up story.  Write on, Jim!

P.S. Go Woodrow Wildcats!

reality check
reality check

A middle aged public figure following high school girls on twitter is a self destructive creep.  Funny how our political leanings can color these facts to our own justifications.

JimS
JimS

Hey, Minimark: Here's the deal. Yes, I probably would hold Leppert more accountable here, because he has willfully sexualized himself politcally by being such a gutless hypocrite on gay issues -- marching in the Gay Pride parade to get elected mayor of Dallas, then condemning Obama's gay tolerance policies to get elected Senator. If you set yourself up for it by posturing as the King of Proper Sex, then, yeah, you deserve a slap-down when you expose your own feet of clay.Weiner is not in that picture. He never claimed to be a saint, so I'm not going to take a shot at him when it turns out he's not a saint.You say I lowered the bar? What bar? The corner bar? That's where men and wmen used to engage in consensual unconsummated flirting, before the Internet. Is your standard here the Jimmy Carter sin-in-my-heart thing? People can't even mess around mentally?Are you the cop on this beat? Where does your authority stop? Do you wnat to be right there in the bedroom with the Weiners making sure niether one of them is faking it?This is none of your business.So he sent it out on Twitter? So what? Twitter is stupid. If you can't take the tweets, get out of the Twitter.Private is private. The technology does not change the nature of the exchange. If a nun is walking down the street witht he church collection money in a  bag, gets a call, screws up and leaves the money on a news box, she made a mistake. Does that mean you can take the money? Is it your money now? Somebody else here said he talked to a lawyer, and the lawyer thought there might be a way to criminalize lying about having your twitter account hacked. I am sure I could find a very bright lawyer friend who could propound a way to criminalize picking your nose. That's why, important and valuable as lawyers may be, they're the last people we want to have in charge of the law. Bottom line? This isn't your business. Nothing makes it your business. You shouldn't want to to be your business. If you want the world to be morally better, be better yourself.

Doug
Doug

Gee, Jim S. will a liberal slant to something, what a shock!! Im sure if this were a Republican doing this he would have a field day with it. The congressman is an idiot and let him hang to dry with the rest of them

TimCov
TimCov

If he had just admitted it was him in the beginning, and then apologized for it. I would have not cared. But, he lied and tried to accuse someone of a crime (breaking into his twitter account). (I asked a lawyer about this) If it was an ordinary person who did this, they could be facing charges for making such a claim. But, he most likely won't, because he is an elected official. I can not stand someone who knowingly accuses someone of a crime they didn't commit.

Doug in DFW
Doug in DFW

Besides yelling at Republicans what has Weiner done to deserve to be called a good Congressman?  Weiner hasn't passed or sponsored much legislation but he does make some great graphs. Jim's really lowered the bar here.

If a Dallas city/county official used government resources to sext would Schutze's series of articles consist of five or six parts?

minimark
minimark

Schutze - Answer me this. If this was Tom Leppert would you have posted this story? I'M REALLY DISAPPOINTED IN YOU!  The problem isn't what he did, it's the coverup, period. If he would have fessed up right away no one other than from the right wing would have cared. I personally would have felt sorry for him, but it comes with the territory, regardless of your half-assed justification. When you are a public figure you've got to be more careful. If you are willing to forgive him for this you lose ALL CREDIBILITY on the other people you crucify for lying.  I'm independent and get PO'D when anyone forgives someone who shares their leanings a pass for lying to the public.  YOU, SIR, ARE A HYPOCRITE!

As Wash would say, that's the way politic go.

I really don't get how you can't see that a coverup is a coverup is a coverup - MEANING A LIES IS A LIE IS A LIE and reflects on your character as a person. PERIOD!

Montemalone
Montemalone

A voyeur is someone who like to watch.

JimS
JimS

Carter: must admit, been thinkin' on those lines, yes.

Ed D.
Ed D.

Perhaps you can help me with a poem. I'm having difficulty getting good rhymes for "David Vitter" and "illegally solicited prostitutes" and I'll be darned if I can get "John Ensign", "had his parents pay off his mistress and her husband", and "will likely be indicted on multiple Federal charges" to fit iambic pentameter. (My "Mark Sanford is hiking the Appalachian Trail" ballad is coming along fine, thanks.)

JimS
JimS

Note to self: no matter what, even if they catch you with your neighbor's liver in a sesame bun, do not look like this. 

JimS
JimS

I'm glad you brought up Tiger Woods. I want to know how a man can go out there and play golf after the public has learned that he is a hound? How can people stand there and watch him hit a golf ball, knowing the terrible things we know about his sex life? Sports figures are much more powerful role models for young people than members of congress, a race young people don't even know exists. So if young people see Tiger Woods hitting golf balls, won't it make them go out and have sex? We shudder. We just shudder, don't we?  I notice that, when we talk about other people's sex lives like this, we shudder a lot. I wonder if we should all go take cold showers and get back to work? 

MortgageGuy
MortgageGuy

I agree. This guy needs to be impeached under the special circumstance "TFS" rules. He's just Too Funcking Stupid to hold public office.

Guest
Guest

Yeah, that's what gets me, just how stupid and/or arrogant you'd have to be to think you can send pics of your junk electronically and think they wouldn't find their way into the public domain. The guys not just a congressman, but a pretty outspoken one who has lots of political enemies and he really thought he could send stuff like that without people finding out? Just stupid. And yeah, the blatant lying after didn't help either.

Likeicare
Likeicare

Sorry, dude, but I expect men to lie about their sex life.  They always have, they always will.  This particular story is forgetting the other party involved.  They EXCHANGED several texts.  This does not release her from being a bimbo.

Minimark
Minimark

Jim - again, this about the cover up.  Not what he did.  If he had just fessed up, or even said it's none of my business, I'd feel compassion for him because I agree with you on the privacy issue.  But it DID become public, and he lied about it.  When you are a congressman you are a public figure and should know that you are going to be held to a higher standard than most.  It goes with the territory.  And, yes, I hold congressmen to a higher standard than my next door neighbor. 

Metroplexual
Metroplexual

Mr. SchutzeJust a few points regarding your thoughts on the Wiener mess.

Weiner is a member of the US Congress. There they play hardball. His votes are important to a lot of groups and his constituents. It is really dumb to give your opponents and enemies so much opportunity to destroy your effectiveness and even your seat.

I don't care about his personal sexual adventures nor did I care about Clinton's et al. But the real result is not a moral failing but political weakness and pathetic mea culpas in front of luring press folks and delighted competitors. But just because I don't care and you don't care doesn't mean that great numbers of Americans should not care. Parents have to explain news events to their children, teachers to their students and pundits to those looking for what to think. Wiener's family is humiliated etc. etc. There are consequences for such stupidity and all of this proves that.

Bush didn't run for president on any war record. That was Kerry. Yet CBS and the NY Times desperately tried to slime him and sabotage his presidency for National Guard matters that were insignificant to most Americans. I believe you ardently supported the 60 minutes producer involved in that fiasco.  So don't give us such a lame no hypocrisy no foul argument.  

This story was driven by right wing reporting that surely wanted to give the liberal media culture and Democrats a measure of their own tactics of producing hysterics at any breath of scandal by an opponent. But is was given legs by Wiener's ineptness and the desire of the masses for a sex scandal with so many easy puns and the hubris and irony of tragedy.

Handsome Lance Manion
Handsome Lance Manion

So usinggovernment resources like say, tax payer funded cell phone, computer, internetconnection, etc is considered acceptable to manage, or more appropriately,mismanage, public officials'  "private(s)"   uh,...life but taking a political stance for oragainst a controversial issue on something using the same resources is not ok?I don't understand Jims logic.....

isaboutu
isaboutu

See how things get twisted...

scottindallas
scottindallas

I don't think he accused anyone, he more suggested that someone could've.  It's equally dishonest, but he didn't exactly lie, he didn't deny it.  The Ticket all seem to read it this way, pointing out that he never answered the questions. 

scottindallas
scottindallas

He didn't lie.  He expressly avoided lying.  He could have done as Bill Clinton did, but didn't.  If this bothers you, fine.  But, he didn't lie. 

It seems to me that people have weaknesses.  We crucify those with sexual weaknesses, though show less issue with greed for money, or power.  I say give me the sexually driven man.  His desires have limits, the druggie has limits, but there is no sating greed of wealth or power.

Catbird
Catbird

Silly boy...nothing bad will happen to Weiner.

Everyone knows that he is the beard for Hillary and Huma, therefore his "tweets" are classified as a matter of national security!

 

Jay
Jay

Neither Tiger Woods or Rep. Weiner broke any laws as far as I know. As an entertainer, Woods seems to now be considered a notorious character rather than a superb golfer. He is still very much in demand on the tour, even though his game has suffered, and he has lost millions in endorsements. Personally, I don't care whether Rep. Weiner resigns or not. He's no more or less a rake than the rest of them.

Watching South Detroit
Watching South Detroit

I don't care about her sex life like I don't care about Weiner's.  She could be a bimbo or not but she is not an elected public official making laws for the rest of us.  It's the lying (I don't care about sex or otherwise), lack of integrity, and disrepect he shows towards the taxpayers that he is supposed to be working for.  I don't want someone who freely lies to make laws for us.  Yes I know the vast majority of politicians are liars - that is why I generally dislike them - but  Weiner has taken it to a new level.  FYI - I think the Republicans Vitter and Ensign should get their asses handed to them also.  

scottindallas
scottindallas

Actually, it's driven by the prurient media.  What's more telling are the sex stories that get quashed and who they are protecting.  Sex sells, and the lame stream media would much rather comment on this than do research, explain wonky details to us, and truly empower us as citizens.  Better we vote on Abortion pro/con, and "taxes" and "freedom" much easier to cover than policy.

Minimark
Minimark

Idiot.  He DID lie.  He said he didn't post the picture, then said he did.  One of those has to be a lie since they are contradictory.

isaboutu
isaboutu

He has always been respectful AND helpful to HIS district..that is not the issue here.

minimark
minimark

AND he said he hired a firm to investigate what happened - when he damn well knew what happened,. I would maybe pick a party to like as opposed to being independent if they had ethics and morals that applied to both parties (fyi I lean socially liberal but fiscally conservative, the definition of someone who can't really pick a party), not just the people they didn't like. 

Al
Al

I am amazed how many people don't seem to know what a lie is.  He knew that he sent it, so someone did not hack his account and send it.  He knew that the picture was not altered, so he did know that that someone did not alter it.  When the truthful answer is absolutely yes spin and weasel word games are worse than denials.  The distractions are only in the minds of those that wish to avoid the truth. 

The sad thing is that If he had been honest from the beginning this would have died down after a couple of days.  He is the one that has kept the story going.

scottindallas
scottindallas

You don't listen very carefully.  He said "some one could have hacked into his account, someone may have altered it, he didn't know."  Those are distractions, but they are not denials. He didn't say, or certainly never intended to say he didn't send it.  There was no, "I did not have sextual relations with..."  He weaseled short of that every time.

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