Men Still Pick Up the Dinner Check, and Women Still Want Them To, Study Says

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So who's going to get this one?
The rules were simple in Cary Grant's day. A gentleman should open doors for a lady, walk to the street-side of a sidewalk and always pull out a chair at the dinner table. And when the napkins hit the table he should be ready to pounce on the check when it comes.

But over the past few decades, the art of chivalry has gotten a little more complicated, as social etiquette has generally relaxed and as women have secured equality in other facets of life. That a man should open a door is still pretty straightforward (certainly some traditions should remain intact), but matters of finance regarding dinner bills have become a little more complicated.

Should a man always pay on a date? Should he pay for the first few dates, and then book a table at a lavish restaurant and excuse himself to the bathroom when that bill comes? What if the woman makes more than he does? What if she makes twice as much?

It's easy to reason that the rules should shift when it comes to deciding who pays, but a study carried out be the American Sociological Association shows we're still old fashioned when it comes to the slip.

Most men and women reported that men pay for more expenses, even after dating a while, according to the study. And while more than half of women say they offer to pay the tab, 39 percent secretly wish their offer would be rejected.

Are dudes getting fed up? Almost half said they would quit dating a woman who never pays, but the majority of men say they feel guilty when accepting a woman's money, making it seem like women are damned if they do pull out the plastic and damned if they don't.

There is some indication of change, according to the study. Respondents in their 20s were more likely to take an equitable view on dinner expenses, indicating that gender roles with respect to dining checks could be a lot more straightforward in decades to come. Of course they'll be eating Google Nutrition Pellets and paying by stare, but it will be equal, dammit.


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15 comments
Sotiredofitall
Sotiredofitall topcommenter

Doesn't who pays also depend on who asked who out?

Mervis_Earl
Mervis_Earl

"Directly or indirectly", the immortal words of my buddy Bill P.

P1Gunter
P1Gunter

Breaking news: People like free stuff, and men will give free stuff hoping to get laid.

Daniel
Daniel

@P1Gunter  Got any citations to back that up, Mr. Social Scientist?

Just kidding.

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin topcommenter

@P1Gunter  yup pussy aint free, as guesty said, its the cost of admission.  Now if you've paid for a while and still have not conquered, well you are just gullible then.  

Guesty
Guesty

@Myrna.Minkoff-Katz  Why does that make him an idiot?  It's the cost of admission, and the choice is to pay a disproportionate amount of dating expenses or to die having lived a lonely life for most straight men.  There are not enough women who want to pay their fair share of dating expenses to go around.  


So who is the idiot?  The man who pays more than his fair share and finds a romantic partner, or the man who refuses and is left hoping to randomly find one of the handful of women who are fine with with dating a man who expects the woman to pay as much as he does?  

J_A_
J_A_

Cost of admission? Boy I bet you sweep the ladies off their feet!

J_A_
J_A_

Maybe if you're a gold digger. I'd change that to both women & men.

TheCredibleHulk
TheCredibleHulk topcommenter

@JaniceA  

"What's under the big tent . . ."

LOL

Ladies Gotta' buy me dinner first iff'n they wanna' see what's under the Big Top.

J_A_
J_A_

Agreed. I was horrible at dating so I sympathize.

J_A_
J_A_

True. It's just sounds funny and makes me think of buying carnival ticket. What's under the big tent, etc.

Guesty
Guesty

@JaniceA  Well, the study found that women want to have dates paid for by the man, so if anyone isn't being romantic in this picture, it's the women who participated in the study.  Men are just doing what they have to do to keep the women interested.  


But this isn't an entirely one-way street.  Women also do silly, irrational, and downright self-destructive things because they think it's necessary to have a dating life.   

Daniel
Daniel

@JaniceA  It sounds more crass than it is, Janice. Guys like to do nice things for pretty girls. This is the way the world is, and this is way the world will be until the end of time.

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