New Bar Trend Honoring Fallen Soldiers Hits Big Tony's Grill In McKinney

Here's a serious one for you, Aters. Maybe you've heard this story that went viral recently: On St. Paddy's Day, a man named Jeff Beaurline walked into Pub 25 in Newtown, Connecticut, and asked the manager if he could leave a cold Guinness on the bar all day for Navy SEAL Lt. Michael Murphy, who was killed in action in Afghanistan in 2005. The bar owner, vehemently refusing Beaurline's money, gladly obliged and left a cold Guinness out on the bar all day, accompanied by a "reserved" sign and an American flag. Murphy was one quarter of SEAL Team 10, which also included the now famed Marcus Luttrell, the only remaining member of Team 10 and author of New York Times best-seller Lone Survivor.

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Jeff Beaurline's post on the Seal of Honor Facebook Page. Big Tony's Grill (1705 W. University Drive) owner and resident teddy bear, Tony Garavaglia, experienced a similar act yesterday when an Army veteran's widow sat at his McKinney bar and ordered six shots of Crown Royal. On a napkin, she wrote down her husband's name and the names of his fellow fallen soldiers. She lined up the six shot glasses, spoke with Tony for a short bit and then left. No one got her name but everyone would very much like to see her again.

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"We really didn't talk that much," Garavaglia says. "It was emotional for her. She was probably 30, and she had her 2-year-old daughter with her. It was the first time I have seen it. I hope she comes back again so I can thank her."

The trend, which is a bit more militant than pouring a sip on the concrete, is likely not as new as recent media attention suggests. But thanks to cell phones and viral social media, gestures like these reach many more people than a few bartenders and patrons. OK, turning the snark machine back up to eleven now. Carry on.

UPDATE:
The mystery woman has come forward and contacted us, and it turns out that we had a few details of the story backwards. Her name is Angelia and she is fortunately NOT a widow of one the names written on the bar napkin. She was the buyer of the Crown, but simply wanted to let others know how important these men were. The following is an excerpt from her e-mail:

"I wrote those names of those men to honor them and to let others know how important they were. I did have my daughter and I did cry. My husband was in the same unit as those men and I want to make clear of the real details. I'm sure if I went into Big Tonys they would recogonize me as the one who paid for and left that there for them."

Although we regret the misprint, we wish to emphasize that the sentiment is still the same and we thank Angelia for sharing her kind act. We hope and expect to see others continue this honorable bar behavior.

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Big Tony's Grill

1705 W. University Drive, Mc Kinney, TX

Category: Restaurant


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21 comments
mamab2282
mamab2282

It makes me proud to know that my husband was so honored and will never be forgotten. Its people like Angelia that makes this country great. My husband is Ssg Bryan Burgess and he is one of the heroes that was KIA march 29, 2011. Thank you.. Tiffany Burgess.

Lee
Lee

I have... something in my eye.

Cruzenwithus
Cruzenwithus

MY Dad did this every year on the date that he was wounded in Okinawa in WW2 for the guys that didn't make it ... as a Vet myself I have continued the tradition since Dad's death in 2010..

2nd
2nd

The woman that did this is not a widow, her husband is stationed at Ft. Benning, GA. He is an Airborne Ranger with the 101st. The names are the men under his command that have died protecting us. NFS. Rangers lead the way!

Kevin Vandonsel
Kevin Vandonsel

Its people like you mr. Sanders that make our country look bad. I have ptsd myself i own a gun and drink and i use it for hunting and those were my friends that died so before saying stupid remarks stop you have no idea of the pain there family goes through everyday. I miss ya AC SGT KEVIN VANDONSEL

Sistehgirl
Sistehgirl

Jeremy Faulkner was my friend and these were six amazing men who are remembered all over the world. Search remembering Jeremy " Remy" Faulkner on FACEBOOK

Mdraab
Mdraab

Saunders: I STRONGLY suggest that you take some reading and comprehension classes.  You obviously saw the text but failed to comprehend ANY of the article.  I completed my third and last tour in Vietnam 40 years ago this month and still struggle with the memories and occasional nightmares but those are much easier to deal with that the ignorant,stupid bastards like you who. See, its the ignorant anal orifices like you who can't even accept a uplifting, positive story like this and not try to turn it into crap.  Which is just what you are.

Eagle Two
Eagle Two

Joeprelude  You got it... right on the mark.  Every generation there appears these morons who want to stereotype those serving as well as those who served.The stereotyping is wrong. Let's look at the facts

Fact: Veterans are as successful or more successful than men their own age who did not go to war.  While stereotypes may persist in Hollywood and the media, America's finest increasingly run the country.

An example of how unfair reporting is impacting vets can be seen in San Diego where fears that the DVA is planning to open a residential treatment program for Vets with PTSD and mild TBI has sparked a debate over public safety.Unfortunately, this rehashed portrayal of PTSD is reminiscent of the Vietnam era,

Eagle Two
Eagle Two

Hey Nanny Kaufman... WTF?   Are you one of those left wing nut jobs who like to stereo type vets?   And who the F*** has PTSD in your crystal ball - all who served?  You steal the HONOR from the story with crap like you posted and take the focus off of those who gave their lives who are being remembered.  Get a life of your own and worry about that.

To those fostering the gist of the story:

To live in the hearts of those you leave behind is never to die.  -- Robert OrrNo Man Is Dead Unless Forgotten and what you are doing will ensure those who paid the ultimate price will never die.

Eagle IIHouston, TX

There is nothing more invigorating than watching the stars & stripes billowing in the wind.On some windy days you can hear the sound of the battles she flew over and the cry of those who gave their lives for freedom echo and resound, stand firm on the Constitution I gave my life for,    walk  forward in my footsteps and maintain her. --(c) 2011 Eagle II

Sanders Kaufman
Sanders Kaufman

Buying liquor for people who suffer from PTSD?Honor the soldiers if you will, but getting them drunk on free booze is a very, very bad idea - both for them and for the rest of us.What next - Donuts for Diabetics? Meth for minors?If you really want to do them a favor, keep one eye on them at all times when they're drinking - alert for the first signs of a psychotic break.And for the love of God, whatever you do, don't let them go home drunk and alone, or to a sleeping family - especially if they're carrying a firearm.

Joeprelude
Joeprelude

Right, the military and VA have both recognized these conditions as serious. Luckily, I go to the Dallas Vet Center, where I can just go talk 1 in 1 with a counselor, usually a vet, and even have group therapy, for both Vietnam and current Vets. its a real nice place and is free. They don't prescribe meds, they use the group therapies so you can see that other people are just like you and that you don't have to go at this alone. The best thing is that Tony framed the piece of paper with the names of the fallen soldiers that the widow left. He got real emotional about it, as did I. But Tony has always been a good friend, and is a very close knit family there. He supported me big time on the last deployment and him and his family are just like my second family. And they got the best pizza I ever had in America.......

Ryan
Ryan

You have got to be one of the most ignorant people I have ever come across. Are you kidding me? Let me ask you Mr. Kaufman Jr. Did you serve? And was it in war time? Because I have, in both Iraq and Afghanistan, as a Marine, in the Infantry... And let me tell you, while some do have problems with PTSD, you are way off, and have most likely formulated your opinion off of reading the Lame Stream Media. I would venture to say that if you would have done any research you would not have made such a terrible WRONG statement. Those that suffer from PTSD, yes have things that can trigger a reaction. BUT PTSD is PTSD, it is no different than someone who suffers from it because of a car accident, or lets a tornado, or home fire. etc. Those that have what you want to call a "psychotic break" have done something YOU would know not a damn thing about!!! 

Again, as previously stated I have served multiple tours in combat. And before you make any remarks, it was my choice and one I do not regret. I do suffer from PTSD, a door could slam shut and makes me jump inside, or someone sneaks up on me and spooks me, I see someone that looks like a fallen friend and comrade forcing a double take and realizing that person looks nothing like my friend, and many more ways. And this is all while sober, I am NOT a treat to you or anyone else because I am coping with my past and coming to terms with my time in war. Today, I have a great job as a HR Manager, going to a private college, with goals of starting a business to HELP fellow veterans better themselves and to OVERCOME the very stigma YOU are placing on all of us right now!! YOU are the treat to US, WE are no treat to you. The only thing we did to you is volunteer to do something only 0.45% of Americans volunteer to do. And guess what we dont to it because of politics, we dont do it because we are war hungry and crazy. We do it because we feel that it is and was our duty to do, we take the burden of war. We do it for the men and women that are willing to stand next to us and share the horrors of war, to protect them and make sure they get to come home to there families, not even thinking about our own, because we are willing to lay our lives down for a complete stranger in a foreign land.

So Mr. Kaufman, if that makes me a threat, than so be it. I will stand and take what you say to the grave, proudly knowing that I among thousands of others have done something YOU simply hide behind a computer and talk about. 

Drew #8
Drew #8

Hey Kaufman! You're a substitute teacher's assistant? Wow. Cause you're obviously not smart enough to even be just a substitute teacher. Do you teach kids your ignorant thoughts like this one without obviously reading the actual story or knowing all the facts? Maybe you can't even read. Who knows? All I know is you're just an ignorant bastard who should not be allowed speech. Joeprelude said it best when he said "you're welcome for your freedom of ignorant speech." I hope that makes you feel horrible when you read that from a protector of your freedom. Someone you should, as we all should, be looking up to and showing appreciation towards instead of making ignorant statements like the one you just made.That being said, this story makes me feel good about people for once. And I hope this bar trend gets big and stretches all across the country/world. 

Jessica
Jessica

You are a freaking idiot. This Is the most offensive thing I've seen in a while. Our vets are the best of the best and deserve respect. When the last time you put your life on the line for a friend and freedom? Jeremy Faulkner was my friend and you should strive to be one quarter the man he was.

nick pants
nick pants

I'd buy a round of Guinness for everyone at Big Tony's if I could drink it while watching someone beat the sh!t out of Kaufman.

Sara Blankenship
Sara Blankenship

The trend is to order something for a member of the armed forces who has died, and the bartender leaves it on the bar all day....it's a gesture, the booze is never consumed.

Joeprelude
Joeprelude

Read the story again, they were for soldiers that had died, and you're remarks about soldiers with ptsd being psychotic? Go to Tonys and you'll see me there, living with ptsd for almost 10 years and not 1 incident of violence. Get educated before making ignorant remarks like that. Ohhhhhhh and I still serve, 13 years, 4, going on 5, combat tours. You're welcome for your freedom of ignorant speech.....MP out

Ryan
Ryan

And, yes I see I said treat, replace it with threat. Some vets do have issues with dealing with their problems, absolutely. But simply casting judgement on all of us and saying giving us drinks means we are going to kill everything...... one word.... IDIOT. I bet you sit behind your computer and laugh at mine and everyone elses comments in regards to yours. And let me tell you, I dont lose sleep from my PTSD, I lose sleep knowing what I did was to preserve the right for IDIOTS like you to stay IGNORANT and say stupid crap like you did.

Amy Mussell
Amy Mussell

please ignore the ignorant remarks of sanders. know that we appreciate yoru service very much and no one thinks people who suffer from PTSD are psychotic. while i do agree with sanders on one sort-of point- i do think we should be looking out for those who suffer from  PTSD because many of them do feel alone and never get the help they need. but that doesnt make them crazy or unstable. i worked with the USO and Wounded Warrior for 6 years. My last big project was working with people who had suffered physical injuries, as well as working with about 300 soldiers who suffered brain trama and/or PTSD. great people and i respect them all so much. just sorry that PTSD was brought on by such horrific events. we love and respect all thsoe who serve and try to encourage awareness (educated awareness) about PTSD and supporting those who suffer. thanks for your sacrifice. hang in there, joe and know you're not alone in the battle against PTSD. much love!

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