Georgia Restaurant Bans Crying Kids. Fine, But Isn't That Their Parents' Job?

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The Huffington Post told the story yesterday of a restaurant in Georgia where the owners "respectfully ask that parents tend to their crying tots outside." Essentially the place is banning crying babies. They pointed to unfavorable comments from other guests concerning loud children as their reason.

Take note, they're not banning children all together, just crying children.

What strikes me as odd is that they have to ask people to take their crying kids outside. Shouldn't that be a given?

Lately the issue of unruly kids has been more prevalent. I've noticed a lot of signs like the one in the photo above. The passive and comedic tone does little to mask the frustration most everyone shares.

The obvious objection here is that parents should be able to take their kids wherever they want because it's important to expose kids to social settings and good food. Couldn't agree more. Families shouldn't be chained to their house. Unless, of course, their kids are loud and crazy and the parents are either in denial or choose oblivion.

I have kids and can't count on all 10 toes and fingers the times that either myself or my husband have had to get up and leave with one of our kids, with an untouched slice of cold pepperoni left on our plate to mark our departure. We've spent countless hours in parking lots or random patches of grass waiting for the others to finish. If we go out to eat, we know that's a burden we may have to bear. Fortunately it's been a while.

We're hypersensitive about it, because the last thing we want to do is burden others with our upset kids. We're strategic about where we sit; we pick the far corner, maybe near an exit. And we tend to gravitate to places that are loud, so the kids chitchat and banter is drowned out by TV, music or other patrons. Otherwise, it's act right or we leave.

I'd appreciate the same courtesy.

My kids have gone bonkers and lost it in places before. That happens. The key is to bolt ASAP and handle the negotiations outside. People understand that, and I don't think that's really the issue. The biggest issue is ignoring unruly children and assuming that everyone else in the place thinks that your kids are as darling as you do.

And it goes without saying the rules change at places geared toward kids. If the pizza buffet is $3, there's a game room in the back and the TVs are set to Boomerang, then I expect hoopla. Although, for my crew, crying and screaming still isn't allowed.

It's just about common courtesy. If kids cry or act crazy, then handle your business. Outside.


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Leslie
Leslie

Stuff I hate:

1) Parents in a group at one table, kids raising hell at another one, often running in circles and bumping into other patrons. Totally ignored by said parents.

2) Parents letting kids throw food, etc. all over the floor.  No thanks or extra tip for the unlucky staffer who has to clean up this mess. (And do the kids do this at home? I always wonder.)

3) Parent glued to iPhone. Little kids sitting quietly across from them. Totally ignored by said parents.

Chris Danger
Chris Danger

I'm a believer that you don't bring little children (birth-5 yrs) to finer dining establishments or a place with a bar, that's just really classless to begin with. But, if you do bring Junior or Little Susie to a higher-end restaurant, you instill in them a set of rules before you leave that they'll behave and that "monkey business" will not be tolerated, not even if other children are doing it. That's the main problem w/ many parents today, they refuse to parent and insists "kids will be kids". 

mark
mark

Didn't read all the comments, sorry if this has been touched on. Ought parents assume that the price of eating out includes leaving a huge mess for the restaurant's employees to deal with? Or, should it be considered common courtesy to leave your table looking as if adults just ate there? Personally, I think it's very rude for parents to leave behind that little plastic "tablecloth", crackers all over the floor..etc. I understand I should be expected to clean up after guests, not having to bus their own table is part of their experience. I just feel that parents should do some minor cleaning up after the children throw/drop/drool food everywhere.

Steve
Steve

I've grown to love the sound of a crying baby, ie., in the first 18 months or so.  

But acting like Chris Kataan's "Mr. Peepers" character isn't what I'm here for, so let's go ahead and take the little one back to your house, which likely smells like bird shit.

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin

I had a seat kicker on an airplane a few months ago.  I let it go for 10 minutes figuring the mom would would possibly say something.  Nope, she had her headphones on, her neck pillow out and her eyes closed, clueless.  I let it go another 10 and finally tapped the woman and asked her if she could have her kid stop kicking my chair.  She said "you woke me up for that, he is a just a child, I cant control what he is going to do"  And that right there is what is wrong with Merica

Kergo 1 Spaceship
Kergo 1 Spaceship

I love it when I'm walking through Walmart, and a big momma in a Looney Tunes tshirt is whacking the kids, and the kids are crying, and boogers flying in every direction; then ten minutes later they are breaking everything in the china isle on the tail end of a M+M induced sugar buzz.  People that can't control they're kids are clueless.  And what a beating in a restaurant!  If mine starts that it's either to the bathroom for some adjustments, or out to the car.

A couple of years ago I took a four hour flight, and was stuck on the tarmac for two additional hours, only to have the spawn of Satan cry for 5 hours, and kickbox my seat the rest of the time.

mewkins
mewkins

What about the tramp that's out on a lunch date with her 3 besties and can't stop talking about how she's not going to sleep with her new boyfriend until the 2nd date whilst using extremely foul language to describe her past "mistakes"? This was on a patio filled with young kids at 11:30 am on a weekday. Should she be asked to take her offensive behavior somewhere else?

mewkins
mewkins

Nobody takes their kids to quiet restaurants. I've never seen a kid lose his shit so much that my meal was "disturbed". What I almost always see (my kids and other kids), almost always a woman, is the diner who raises her tone and says, "who brings a 3 year old to a restaraunt?" It's a pizza restaraunt beeatch! A loud one with giant TV screens playing sports on them!!

Note to child hating snobs: If you want to ruin your evening at a restaurant say something about a kid's poor behavior within earshot of his dad, who has probably had a few beers with his pizza.

I practice the "step outside and calm down rule" with my kids, but that doesn't seem to be enough these days. People don't even want to see kids. It reminds them that they've wasted their lives.

EvilShenanigans
EvilShenanigans

A crying child does not bother me very much as long as the parent is involved and trying to calm them down, or is taking them outside or to a bathroom to settle down.  What I detest are the parents who ignore little Jr. Son-of-a-bitch while they scream, or worse, allow said little bastard to run around as if the entire establishment, including your booth, is their own personal playground.  Those kids will grow up to be just as oblivious as their parents.  That is what pisses me off. 

seabird20
seabird20

My 2c. For sure, there will be occasions when even the best behaved children go off the deep end. Unknown sometimes what sets them off, but yes it happens. I would hope we would give tolerance to those children and their minders AS LONG AS A REAL EFFORT IS MADE TO CURTAIL THE DISTURBANCE. It's the minders who ignore the high pitched screams, the crying, the yelling, the cutting up that I think this article is aimed at. Great points that it, to some extent depends on the place. There isn't a blanket rule - except to treat everyone right. That's the children themselves, the staff at the place, the other diners. The only person who might be short-changed is you - the minder. But then only if the children concerned don't show respect to all around.And are we less kid friendly? I am not sure we are. We certainly see children in more places than we used to - so there are more opportunities to be less friendly. But on the whole, I don't think so.

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

It's all relative. Obiously(? I could be wrong) you don't take the kids to a fine dining establishment. If I'm at Chili's or Friday's, chances are I might be near a family with an unruly child. Whoopty dooo. I have 4 kids, and they stay in line or they know they'll be in trouble.

So, what are the consequences if you have an unruly kid? If you're asked to leave, do they comp your bill?

I think I get more annoyed by drunks or teens than I do by kids honestly.

Martingermany
Martingermany

I agree that it should be a given that parents take a crying child outside.I have two kids and am fortunate enough that that is rarely necessary, because we make sure they are kept entertained and we've been taking them to restaurants from the beginning, but if it occurs, yes, we take them outside.

I think that it's a dual development though. Yes, some parents seem less thoughtful about how their child might be imposing on others, but I also think at the same time, society has become less child friendly. People seem to are less likely to take the attitude that even the best behaved children have off-days. Maybe it's because people go out with kids more nowadays, because there's not the stay-at-home mom in every household that cooks the meals and going out is reserved for the parents' night off, so you run into the problem more often.

In any case, i try to give people the benefit of the doubt unless they glaringly ignore their children's behavior.

TB
TB

It should be a given. But, sadly, haven't we all seen a significant number of parents who just don't get it? They're just being selfish and rude -- or at best, totally clueless.

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

Wow. If I was with you I would have told her she can take her damn headphones off and amuse the kid. Probably wouldn't have mattered. Some parents don't give a damn what their kids are doing as long as they're not bothering them or breaking laws.

Josh's broken records
Josh's broken records

I can damn near tune-out other people's little darlings when in a crowd..or an airplane..restaurant.  Years of practice with my wifey, I reckon.

Josh's broken records
Josh's broken records

Hells yes she should, check her arse up.  If'n I was there with my kiddoes, she would of been.

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin

that problem is easily solved, lean over and quietly call her an unt with a c.  when she flips her lid, you can tell her thats how you felt about the subject matter she was sharing with the whole patio

Chris Danger
Chris Danger

I dont hate children at all, I have a 10 yr old nephew, 2 yr old niece and a cousin w/ five kids between the ages of 2-10. What I take issue with is parents who refuse to actually parent. If your taking your kids to Chuck-E-Cheeze or FuddRuckers, I can understand the running around and playing, but you also make them mind when its time to eat and behave. Taking them to a place where grown people are spending money for a higher quality of service and then having them doing the same things (running around, yelling, ect..), thats where I draw the line. 

mmarks
mmarks

I don't mind noisy kids in family-oriented restaurants like Denny's, but when I'm out on a Saturday night at a steak house, I could strangle parents who walk in with a three-year-old and an infant in a carrier. I am NOT a child-hating snob. You're a thoughtless, self-absorbed idiot.

Scruffygeist
Scruffygeist

Exactly. I'll give all sorts of leeway in my irritation level if the parent is showing some signs of giving a shit that their little precious gem act decently.

Josh's broken records
Josh's broken records

Right there with ya brother, We have three of em..but they act right when we're in public..at home is a different matter.  Gagree completely about the drunks and teens too...well the teens part of it anyhow.

Nic Rodriguez
Nic Rodriguez

I want to punch teenagers. Does this make me a bad person?

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

You hit the nail on the head, our society is not child friendly. Good post.

Kergo 1 Spaceship
Kergo 1 Spaceship

Herein lies the essence of the problem; then when the kids are older they've had no boundaries, and don't listen to ANYONE. Then they want to become best friends with said teen monster, and get tat's, pink hair and piercings.  fail

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

I've totally interrupted said conversation before, and you get the go to hell look because the "lut" with an "s" doesn't have kids and probably didn't get enough hugs from dad. I wince in the morning when the Musers or New School get into grexual talk and have to frantically change the channel before my boys ask me what up tops, self love, or man on man are. I sometimes wish radio practiced a 7-8am rule on things you can't say in front of your kids.

mewkins
mewkins

You're right. My apologies Ma'am. I do need to be more thoughtful. You should probably think about a little self reflection too. If you'd "strangle parents" just for bringing their kids into your favorite steak house during your Saturday night meal you may hate children. I suggest going to eat a little later. You'll mostly be around young adults rather than families and the elderly.

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

I have 3 boys and a baby girl. My boys are always pissing each other off, so we have to situate ourselves between all of them. They act right most of the time but I have a one strike rule in restaurants before we discuss things in the restroom or outside.

ScottsMerkin
ScottsMerkin

I dont get it, when I was a teen and my friends and i would go out to eat, or the mall or the movies, we respected other people, yeah we had some bad apples in our school who were hellraisers, but it seems to get worse with every generation.  I dont have children yet, but I pray for the generation of youth today that something turns around

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

No Nic, it just makes you an honest person, and we appreciate you for that.

TheRealDirtyP1
TheRealDirtyP1

My wife does look at me weird when I sing a sweetjack commercial.I'm indifferent to Choppy, that Sharif guy has grown on me though.

Scruffygeist
Scruffygeist

You deserve it for listening to Choppy anyway. SweetJack commercials are better.

mewkins
mewkins

I have a little more patience with the teens. Most of the stuff I've seen is harmless dipshit buffoonery. I try and remember when I was a teen. Acne, awkward gait, spontaneous boners, and anxiety about girls and getting my arse kicked by girls' older boyfriends. Teens are having a hard enough time. They don't need me to tear them down in front of their friends.

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